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NYANP Conference

August 17th, 2016

How to Add 2 More Hours to Your Day

March 6th, 2016

Great article with very useful tips to “create” more time with 5 Simple Steps.

Why Do People Act the Way They Do

July 1st, 2015

Dr. Rick Brinkman explains why people act the way they do and what you can do about it, to employees of ITV London, UK at their December Lunch & Learn.


The Art of the Apology

June 25th, 2015

Saying “No” is Your Most Important Time Management Tool

May 29th, 2015

Steve Jobs said, “Focus is about saying ‘no’ to 1000 things. I am as proud of the things we have said ‘no’ to as those we have said ‘yes'”.

Here is a great article on “no”.

Have you ever come back to work after a holiday with firm intentions that this time you will manage your commitments better? Yet, a few weeks back at work and that resolution seems a distant dream.

It seems that nearly everyone wrestles with this issue and none more than the people who like to be busy, involved and contributory in their daily activities – and I include myself in that group.

It was useful to remind myself the other day about the first of the 8 Top Time Tips on the back of my business card. (Almost every attendee of a conference or workshop gets one):

The No. 1 Tip: ‘No is your most powerful time management tool.’ …. read more here

How to Eat Make Healthier Choices While Enjoying the Holidays

December 24th, 2014

A Place For Mom ( – How to Make Healthier Choices While Enjoying the Holidays – By APMM Admin – (Friday, December 16, 2014)

For most, the holiday season begins at Thanksgiving and ends in the New Year. The season is a time of joy, nostalgia, giving, shopping, traveling, social events and of eating many festive foods and treats.

In addition to the many foods and treats we eat, the stress from holidays can also be brought on by unwanted guests such as family tension, loneliness, depression and stress. Read More…

Polish is the 25th Language of Dealing with People You Can’t Stand

November 29th, 2014

I am proud to announce that our book Dealing with People You Can’t Stand, How to Bring Out the Best in People at Their Worst (Brinkman & Kirschner, McGraw-Hill 2004, 2003, 2012) is now in it’s 25th language.

The companion book which we affectionately call “the Cliff Notes” version: 24 Lessons for Managers: Dealing with Difficult People has also come out in Polish.














“Dealing with People You Can’t Stand” book Cited as a Resource in Forbes

September 2nd, 2014

Link to article here

Dr. Rick on Patricia Terrel Show: Conscious Communication to Bring Out the Best in People, Part 1

August 18th, 2014



1.       What is Conscious Communication?
2.       What are the top ten difficult behaviors plus 3?
3.       The behaviors are not “personality typing”
4.       Strategies for specific behaviors. The “Whining” Example
5.       Can we really change someone’s behavior?
6.       The four choices for dealing with the difficult people
7.       Addressed a question involving a condescending boss (Sniper)
8.       Closing remarks about options, zillions of opportunities to practice each day, etc.

Awake within a dream: Lucid dreamers show greater insight in waking life

August 17th, 2014

University of Lincoln
People who are aware they are asleep when they are dreaming have better than average problem-solving abilities, new research has discovered. Experts say that those who experience ‘lucid dreaming’ — a phenomenon where someone who is asleep can recognize that they are dreaming — can solve problems in the waking world better than those who remain unaware of the dream until they wake up.

How to Deal with “High Maintenance Co-Workers” in Your Law Firm

August 13th, 2014

Listen to this 20 minute podcast where we specifically touch on Know-it-All behavior and how to open people’s mind to the ideas of others.

Parasites Killing Their Hosts – The Food Industry’s Solution to Obesity

June 20th, 2014

NY Times:

You can buy food from farmers — directly, through markets, any way you can find — and I hope you do. But unless you’re radically different from most of us, much of what you eat comes from corporations that process, market, deliver and sell “food,” a majority of which is processed beyond recognition.

The problem is that real food isn’t real profitable. “It’s hard to market fruit and vegetables without adding value,” says Marion Nestle, a professor of nutrition, food studies and public health at New York University. “If you turn a potato into a potato chip you not only make more money — you create a product with a long shelf life.” Potatoes into chips and frozen fries; wheat into soft, “enriched” bread; soybeans into oil and meat; corn into meat and a staggering variety of junk.

How do we break this cycle?  ….. READ MORE RECOMMENDED

The Most Powerful Incentive To Get a Team to Manage Their Time Is …

June 2nd, 2014

How can you get a team to manage its time more efficiently and productively? Give them a time-off goal.

That’s according to Harvard Business School Professor Leslie Perlow, who writes  … (read more here in full article, recommended)

Having a Sense of Purpose Adds Years to Your Life

May 16th, 2014

Having a sense of purpose may add years to your life, regardless of what the purpose is, research suggests.

Not only does it contribute to healthy aging, but it may also stave off early death, according to a study of 7,000 Americans.

The research, published in Psychological Science, applies across adult life, says a US-Canadian team.

It may be because purposeful people look after their health better and are physically fitter, they believe.

The study tracked the physical and mental health of more than 7,000 US adults aged 20 to 75 years.  READ MORE


Want to clarify your purpose, check out Life by Design.

My All Time Favorite

January 25th, 2014

This is my all time favorite saying when it’s time to start a new endeavor. What’s your favorite?

Download sign to post here:

Failure is Not an Option

January 16th, 2014

When ever I am faced with adversity or doubt, this is the sign I look at in my office,  (and then I “Spring into Action”).


Download the PDF to print here:

Get it Done Thought of the Day: Spring into Action

January 8th, 2014

When my mother, Auschwitz survivor was up against adversity she would say, “It’s time to spring into action!”

That philosophy led to her and her sisters to escape a death march in January of 1945 and served her the rest of her life.

Read about her escape here:

Download the PDF sign here:




Get it Done Thought of the Day

January 6th, 2014

One of my favorite motivational signs.  “Perfection” is one of the five reasons people procrastinate.

Download the PDF here.


Manifesting Your Dreams by Clarifying Values

January 5th, 2014

This time of year we tend to put our attention on manifesting the future. I have found the #1 reason people set goals and don’t achieve them is either they haven’t clarified values or don’t have a specific enough plan.

Here is a gift to you from the book Life by Design, (Brinkman & Kirschner, McGraw-Hill) and my audio Life by Design (Brinkman, CareerTrack), the chapters on clarifying values.

I would consider this the single most important thing you can do to create self motivation.

Download a compressed archive here:


December 20th, 2013

How to deal with Meddling from the Enhanced eBook “Dealing with People You Can’t Stand, How to Bring Out the Best in People at Their Worst,” now at the iTunes bookstore.

Give it as a gift for that person with an iPad. The iTunes bookstore has now added the ability to buy a book as a gift for a person.

In their Educating Through Entertainment style, doctors Brinkman & Kirschner have enhanced their international bestselling book (over 2 million copies in 24 languages) with:

7 comic book style presentations embedded with audio that depict different scenarios illustrating the strategies for difficult behaviors.

16 entertaining and engaging videos showing how to resolve conflict stations with demonstrated positive and negative strategies.

Link to the Lens of Understanding Self-Assessment you can complete to evaluate your relationships with people in your life.

Access to a 27-minute audio of the authors explaining how to change your attitude and reactions so you can use the tools in the book even more effectively.

Whether you’re dealing with a coworker trying to take credit for your work, a distant family member who knows no personal bounds, a Know-it-All, a Sniper, a Whiner, Martyr or other difficult person, this book gives you the tools for bringing out the best in people at their worst.